Saturday, November 28, 2015

How to Erradicate Violence



We must govern violence as not acceptable and punish accordingly

.Everyday acts of violence take place that can be stopped. Violence is not necessary although is used to get to the root of human meaning as people look to add value and meaning to their life. With this I challenge everyone reading this piece to think about how they can remove violence. However small the act of  violence is

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If we truly wanted to eradicate violence, then we must all work together to help everyone at least have their basic needs met. We have the resources as a world to feed, cloth, and shelter everyone. We do have these resources, and without these basic needs - people desperate for basic survival will naturally turn to violence

  • to survive... Step one is helping all to have basic needs met... That means food shelter and clothing. Not cable TV and Internet. Nor cell phones. Step 2 is to punish violence, remove it from movies to a large degree... Remove from video games... Punish those whom are violent and bully's instead of rewarding them with higher positions of power in today's corporations or political environments. Fines should be given to those who are violent, and if they can't behave in society, they should be isolated. Not in a prison with all the violent individuals planning and scheming, but with positive influences that can truly help to train, and possible reprogram individuals away from violent behaviors... This must happen for as long as it takes... Maybe a year, maybe a lifetime - or anywhere in between.... Let the behavior drive the sentence...Not the opposite way around as we do today.... If we follow this model, we can take back the world peacefully again, and step the tide of violence that washes upon our shores each and every day....
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    Familly Ties in Morocco

    Familly Ties in Morocco
    People gather around the silver-plated tea tray - with cups varying in size and color along with a pot holding their national Moroccan green tea - to have warm chitchats, and express their worries and fears.

    Image result for Moroccan family ties imagesThis round tray is adornded with intricate geometric shapes, including a hexagonal star that is the distinctive mark of Jewish silversmiths dominating the Moroccan market. The tray is usually accompanied by another smaller tray carrying jars that contain tea leaves, and a boiler.

    The tray is called "White" by some, after the Italian man who introduced it to Morocco back in 18th century. White was known for his premium quality goods.

    Every Moroccan house has a tea tray ready to be presented to guests, and some place it as part of house decoration. Larger Moroccan houses have special tea room used to receive guests.

    In the southern parts of the country, trays vary in the items displayed depending on the time of the day they are presented.

    Some strict traditions and rituals are associated with the tea tray gatherings and a staff member is appointed to oversee every small detail to ensure that the gathering is in line with the set rules of tradition.Image result for Moroccan family ties images

    First there is Gaed Al-Siniya (tray leader), that is the person assigned to supervise the gathering and making sure that everything is going smoothly and according to the book.

    The second and more prominent staff member is Al-Gayem (the person serving tea to the group). This assignment requires tidiness and courtesy as the server should be neat, well-presented, educated, sharp and should master the art of entertaining the crowd through reciting poetry or narrating stories.

    In the southern parts of Morocco where the majority of population are Bedouins, tea tray gatherings are governed by the rule of the three "Js" that is Jama'a (the group), Jamr (coal used to heat water), and Jar (prolonged gathering).

    The server elected by the group should meet the group's expectations, said Moroccan researcher and poet Ham bin Balaayil in a statement to KUNA.

    He is not allowed to leave the session before performing his duty, which includes keeping the tray clean as spilling is not tolerated while entertaining the group, Bin Balaayil said.

    The server should also draw a mental map of the cups he serves as he is to remember every cup and the person of which the cup belongs to, he said.

    He is not is not entitled to assign someone else to cover for him, and if he breaks one of the rules he is to present his group with a slaughtered camel, if not, pay the amount in cash, Bin Al-Balaayil added.Image result for Moroccan family ties images

    The cleanliness and neatness required in the tea tray gatherings are influenced by the Sufi doctrine, he said.

    Manners are also observed so that elderly are to drink first and servers last whereas in-laws are not to sit at the same tray.

    As for the northern parts of the nation, the luxurious touch is showcased through the use of pricy trays, boilers and cups along the use of aromatic herbs added to the green tea such as rose, mint, and saffron, as well as serving the traditional almond filled dough dessert of 'Kaab Al-Gazal'.

    Abdulaati Aayat Hasayin, an Imam and a tea tray server, said that due to modernization and globalization people now were too busy to attend tea gatherings, and instead prefer to go to the many cafes that serve "tasteless" tea.

    He recalled the old times when the tea tray gatherings were so dominant that when the server failed to entertain his group he became a mockery.

    These get-togethers, although less dominant these days, have not lost their charm and still play an essential role in strengthening familial ties and in showcasing the society's solidarity. (KUNA)

    Sarah Khan

    Global Arab Network

    10 Tips on Maintaining Close Family Ties

    10 Tips on Maintaining Close Family Ties
               "Hugging kids is better than giving a present." 
                                                                                Esther Chan
                                                                                    Parent Liaison
                                                                                       Wu Yee Family Center, San Fra

          Parent educators offer these 10 tips for maintaining close family ties:Image result for FAMILY TIES CULTURE
    1. Learn from each culture.
    To raise your child in a new culture, you may need to rethink some traditional views.
    “There are positive things about each culture, and parents need to pick the best of each,” advises Nancy Lim Yee, a psychiatric social worker in the Chinatown Child Development Center in San Francisco.
    Yee adds that her generation was raised to be “highly obedient and silent in school,” willing to sacrifice the self for the family or group. Today, raising her own children in a competitive and individualistic culture, Yee recognizes that “the kids have different ideas.” Still, she talks with them frequently about the importance of family and working together.
    In Chinese communities, “some parents feel that by praising, you create a child that is conceited,” Yee says. “We have to work a lot with many Chinese families on the importance of promoting self-esteem.”
    Linda Lilly, an education specialist for United Indian Nations, recalls the difficulties of finding a balance between the reservation and the society outside. Lilly says when her kids entered school, she “told them they had to raise their hands and be assertive in class, but when they come home, they have to listen because their elders are speaking.”
    2. Make sure your child doesn’t forget your language.
    It’s important that your kids continue to understand your language, advises Dora Pulido-Tobiassen, a former project director at California Tomorrow. Pulido-Tobiassen, who only speaks Spanish with her young child, encourages parents to speak to a child in the native language even if the child answers in English. But don’t try to force kids to speak your language, Mayer says, or “they will rebel later.”
    3. Share your culture with your kids.
    Lilly started introducing her three kids to her Navajo culture immediately after birth. Lilly says they took in their Native American traditions through all their senses by “hearing the drums and the bells and seeing the colors.”
    Mayer advises to help your children feel attracted to your culture through enjoyable activities like making tamales for Christmas, attending Día de los Muertos or Chinese New Year events.
    Maria Cardiel, a volunteer parent host at Radio Bilingüe, says explaining legends and celebrations to her kids is a way for her to learn, too.
    4. Maintain or create extended family ties.
    If grandparents, uncles and aunts don’t live nearby, you can create your own extended family, Mayer says.
    “My Latina friends became tías (aunts) — my children responded to them [as] real tías,” Mayer says, adding that she takes her kids back to her family to Mexico every year.
    5. Make time to talk and listen to your kids.
    Parents trying to survive in a foreign culture may feel that their job is just to “feed their kids” and give them things that they themselves never had, says Esther Chan, a parent liaison at Wu Yee Family Center in San Francisco. But, “hugging kids is better than giving them a present,” Chan says.
    Notice when and where kids talk with you, Mayer says. Maybe a particular room or a certain activity, such as bedtime or the drive to school, encourages your child to open up.
    Setha Nhim, director of a Cambodian culture program for kids in Fresno, encourages parents to tell stories about their own childhood and struggles. A Cambodian immigrant and parent of three, Nhim says, “Kids need to hear about the good times and the bad.”
    6. Get involved at your kids’ schools.
    Schools have an important influence on kids, Yee says. She encourages parents to work with schools to create opportunities for cultural sharing. When Yee’s kids were in school, she brought in stories and special foods for holidays, such as little moon cakes for the Chinese Moon Festival.
    Even if you don’t have much time, be there when you can, says Carla Dardon, a Guatamalan immigrant and leadership development coordinator at Hayward’s Tyrrell Parents’ Center. She volunteered at her kids’ school on days off from her full-time restaurant job.
    7. Remember that you can help your child learn, even if you don’t speak English.
    You have the right to request that someone translate for you at school, points out Lupe Carrasco, regional manager of Radio Bilingüe. And Nhim reminds parents that even if they don’t understand their kids’ homework, they can still make sure their children do the homework and look it over.
    8. Educate yourself as much as possible.
    When you’re working and raising kids, it’s easy to become isolated and hard to take classes yourself. But it’s good to work on learning English in whatever way you can.
    “Kids need to see a strong mother,” says Sharon Aminy, a family advocate at Hayward’s Winton Healthy Start and Family Resource Center and an immigrant from India. “There’s a role reversal when children are left to translate, and they sense this.”
    According to Mayer, parents can say, “I may not know English now, but I’m going to learn it.”
    At 55, Marta Serrano, of National City, still doesn’t speak much English. But now, with one of her children finishing her doctorate, Serrano is going back to school.
    “Ahora es mi turno (It’s my turn now),” Serrano says.
    9. Get together with other parents.
    Many county mental health departments and child care programs offer parenting groups where you can share concerns in your native language. Or you can form one of your own through your school, place of worship, family resource center or child care center.
    10. Tune into local radio and TV in your language.
    Your community may offer resources for families who speak your language. written by Kathleen Barrows.

    Thursday, November 26, 2015

    Black Friday History

    Black Friday History

    For millions of people Black Friday is the time to do some serious Christmas shopping --even before the last of the Thanksgiving leftovers are gone! Black Black is the Friday after Thanksgiving, and it's one of the major shopping days of the year in the United States -falling anywhere between November 23 and 29. While it's not recognized as an official US holiday, many employees have the day off -except those working in retail.
    The term “Black Friday” was coined in the 1960s to mark the kickoff to the Christmas shopping season. “Black” refers to stores moving from the “red” to the “black,” back when accounting records were kept by hand, and red ink indicated a loss, and black a profit. Ever since the start of the modern Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade in 1924, the Friday after Thanksgiving has been known as the unofficial start to a bustling holiday shopping season.
    In the 1960's, police in Philadelphia griped about the congested streets, clogged with motorists and pedestrians, calling it “Black Friday.” In a non-retail sense, it also describes a financial crisis of 1869: a stock market catastrophe set off by gold spectators who tried and failed to corner the gold market, causing the market to collapse and stocks to plummet.

    Why did it become so popular?

    As retailers began to realize they could draw big crowds by discounting prices, Black Friday became the day to shop, even better than those last minute Christmas sales. Some retailers put their items up for sale on the morning of Thanksgiving, or email online specials to consumers days or weeks before the actual event. The most shopped for items are electronics and popular toys, as these may be the most drastically discounted. However, prices are slashed on everything from home furnishings to apparel.
    Black Friday is a long day, with many retailers opening up at 5 am or even earlier to hordes of people waiting anxiously outside the windows. There are numerous doorbuster deals and loss leaders – prices so low the store may not make a profit - to entice shoppers. Most large retailers post their Black Friday ad scans, coupons and offers online beforehand to give consumers time to find out about sales and plan their purchases. Other companies take a different approach, waiting until the last possible moment to release their Black Friday ads, hoping to create a buzz and keep customers eagerly checking back for an announcement.
    More and more, consumers are choosing to shop online, not wanting to wait outside in the early morning chill with a crush of other shoppers or battle over the last most-wanted item. Often, many people show up for a small number of limited-time "door-buster" deals, such as large flat-screen televisions or laptops for a few hundred dollars. Since these coveted items sell out quickly, quite a few shoppers leave the store empty handed. The benefit of online shopping is that you will know right away if the MP3 player you want is out of stock, and can easily find another one without having to travel from store to store. Also, many online retailers have pre-Black Friday or special Thanksgiving sales, so you may not even have to wait until the big day to save. So, there you have it - the Black Friday history behind the best shopping day of the year!

    What to Buy on Black Friday

    What to Buy on Black Friday
    Some consumers dream of Black Friday all year long, relishing the pre-dawn moment when they can hit the door-busters.
    But what products are likely to be discounted, making the early morning quest worthwhile?
    At, staffers call the 7-day period around Thanksgiving "National Deal Week," says Daniel de Grandpre, the site's co-founder and CEO. After all, stores open at midnight or even Thanksgiving Day, and many discounts continue through the weekend.
    Shoppers should beware of lowball pricing, says Tod Marks, senior projects editor at Consumer Reports. He suggests asking, "Is it the latest or the greatest, or is it some sort of leftover from past seasons?"
    Electronics bargains may include 42-inch high-definition TVs starting at $109 and 55-inch LCD HDTVs for $379, according to predictions from Deal News. But de Grandpre says Black Friday sales circulars will be filled with off-brand merchandise. "Black Friday is about cheap stuff at cheap prices," he says.
    Stores dictate price points to manufacturers with Black Friday sales in mind. Manufacturers hit those low targets with cheaper components -- a lower-quality screen or fewer HDMI ports.
    While not the highest quality, these sets could be fine for a children's room, de Grandpre suggests. "If you don't need something that's very high-end, it's the perfect time to buy," he says.

    Chinese food

    Chinese food  

    Beijing Roast Duck
    Beijing Roast Duck

    It  is  often  said that  if you are  in Beijing,  there are  essentially   two things that you must do; one is to climb the Great Wall of China, and the other is to eat Peking Duck. Once confined to the kitchens of the palace, the legendary Peking Duck is now served at thousands of restaurants around Beijing, as well as around the world.Image result for chinese culture images

    The origin of the Peking Duck dates back to the Ming Dynasty, about 600 years ago. Cooks from all over China travelled to the capital Beijing to cook for the Emperor. It was a prestigious occupation as only the best chefs could enter the palace kitchens. A top cook was even able to reach the rank of a minister!
    It was in these kitchens where dishes of exceptional quality such as the Peking Duck were first created and crafted to perfection by palace chefs. However, many of the recipes for such "foods of the Emperor" were later smuggled out of the kitchen and onto the streets of Beijing. With the eventual fall of the Ching dynasty in 1911, court chefs who left the Forbidden City set up restaurants around Beijing and brought Peking Duck and other delicious dishes to the masses.
    In the winter season, when chilly temperatures and frigid winds   prevail over the land, people like to eat food that instantly warms their bodies and lifts their spirits. For that, the hot pot is a delicious and hearty choice. Families or groups of friends sit around a table and eat from a steaming pot in the middle, cooking and drinking and chatting. Eating hot  pot is not a passive activity: diners must select morsels of prepared raw food from plates scattered around the table, place them in the pot, wait for them to cook, fish them out of the soup, dip them in the preferred sauce, and then eat them hot, fresh, and tender. They can also ladle up the broth from the pot and drink it.
    hotpot The high temperature in the hot pot is symbolic  of the warmth of tender  feeling that those people  sitting around it have for  each other, while the round shape of the apparatus is a hint at the lack or complete absence of irregularities in the man-to-man relationship. Undoubtedly, this way of eating is not only a figurative embodiment but a visual indication of the willingness to eat from the same pot and to share the same lot. This is the most highly prized merit of group consciousness.

    The hot pot is not only a cooking method; it also provides a way of eating. It is not only a dietary mode; it is also a cultural mode. As a dietary mode, the hot pot can be used by many people dining together, or by one person eating alone. Yet how few are those solitary diners to be found in a restaurant! In a hot pot restaurant it's really hard to meet with a customer dining by him/herself. This is not because the diner wants to economize, but because dining by oneself in front of a hot pot is devoid of interest and joy.

    Buddhism in China


    Buddhism in China                            budanism1                                                   
    Buddhism is the most important religion in China. It is generally believed that it was spread to China in 67 AD during the Han Dynasty (206 BC-220) from Hotan in Xinjiang to Central China. During its development in China, it has a profound influence on traditional Chinese culture and thoughts, and has become one of the most important religions in China at that time.
    Three different forms of this religion evolved as it reached the centers of population at varying times and by different routes. The social and ethnic background in each location also affected the way in which each of these forms developed and eventually they became known as Han, Tibetan and Southern Buddhism.
    Over its long history, Buddhism has left an indelible impact on Chinese civilization. Many words and phrases have budanismroot in a Buddhist origin. Take a colloquial phrase as an example, 'to hold the foot of Buddha at the moment" means "to make a last minute effort". This reveals in a sense the true attitude of the Chinese toward the utilitarian aspects of belief. Many people kowtow to whatever gods they encounter and will burn incense in any temple.
    In literature traces of Buddhism and Zen are obvious. Quite a few famous poets in Tang Dynasty like Bai Juyi were lay Buddhists but this did not prevent them from indulging in a little from time to time. Just as today's white collar classes go to bars, the Tang scholars went to restaurants to drink and flirt with the almahs.
    In today's China, Buddhist temples, Buddhist caves and grottoes and Buddhist Holy Mountains, especially the ones listed in the national or provincial historical and cultural relics, have become the hot spots for tourism. It is not uncommon for the income of a temple to cover the expenses of a whole county or district.Image result for chinese culture images

    Taoism in China

    Taoism in China             Taoism

    In the Chinese language the word tao means "way," indicating a way of thought or life. There have been several such ways in China's long history, including Confucianism and Buddhism. In about the 6th century BC, under the influence of ideas credited to a man named Lao-tzu, Taoism became "the way". like Confucianism, it has influenced every aspect of Chinese culture.
    Taoism began as a complex system of philosophical thought that could be indulged in by only a few individuals. In later centuries it emerged, perhaps under the influence of Buddhism, as a communal religion. It later evolved as a popular folk religion.
    Philosophical Taoism speaks of a permanent Tao in the way that some Western religions speak of God. The Tao is considered unnamed and unknowable, the essential unifying element of all that is. Everything is basically one despite the appearance of differences. Because all is one, matters of good and evil and of true or false, as well as differing opinions, can only arise when people lose sight of the oneness and think that their private beliefs are absolutely true. This can be likened to a person looking out a small window and thinking he sees the whole world, when all he sees is one small portion of it. Because all is one, life and death merge into each other as do the seasons of the year. They are not in opposition to one another but are only two aspects of a single reality. The life of the individual comes from the one and goes back into it.
    The goal of life for a Taoist is to cultivate a mystical relationship to the Tao. Adherents therefore avoid dispersing their energies through the pursuit of wealth, power, or knowledge. By shunning every earthly distraction, the Taoist is able to concentrate on life itself. The longer the adherent's life, the more saintly the person is presumed to have become. Eventually the hope is to become immortal.
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    Confucianism in China


    Confucianism in China    confucious                       

    Confucius was China’s most famous Philosopher. He lived in Ancient China during the Zhou Dynasty. Confucius was a government official, and during his lifetime (he lived from 551 to 479 B.C. ) he saw growing disorder and chaos in the system. Perhaps due to the turmoil and injustices he saw, he set himself to develop a new moral code based on respect, honesty, education, kindness and strong family bonds. His teachings later became the basis for religious and moral life throughout China.
    The Five Virtues of Confucius
    Confucius believed that a good government was the basis for a peaceful and happy society. And the basis for a good government was good officials. In order to become a “good official” a person had to master the following Five Virtues:
     Li for ritual etiquette, manners, gravity
    "Men's natures are alike, it is their habits that carry them far apart."

    renRen stands for Kindness to the fellow man
    “Forget injuries, never forget kindnesses."

    xin     Xin stands for truthfulness, faithfulness and sincerity
              “The superior man is modest in his speech, but exceeds in his actions”

    yi    Yi for righteousness or honesty, generosity of soul
      “When we see men of a contrary character, we should turn inwards and examine ourselves”

    xiaoXiao for filial piety, for strong family values
    “The strength of a nation derives from the integrity of the home”

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    Chinese culture, tradition and customs

    Chinese culture, tradition and customs

    Image result for chinese culture imagesPresent day Chinese culture is an amalgamation of old world traditions and a westernized lifestyle. The two co-exist like the traditional Yin Yang formula of balance. This can be seen in the juxtaposition of towering skyscrapers with heritage buildings, the contrast of western fashion with the traditional Chinese Qipao dress, the people's paradoxical affinity for both dim sums and McDonald's.
     Ancient Chinese Culture is older than 5000 years. Chinese cultural history has enormous diversity and variety. The sophisticated Chinese civilization was rich in the Arts and Sciences, elaborate Painting and Printing techniques and delicate pottery and sculpture. Chinese architectural traditions were much respected all over the world. Chinese language and literature, philosophy and politics are still reckoned as a strong influence. Chinese culture managed to retain its unique identity till the advent of Western culture in the mid-19th century.
    Chinese Religion, Philosophy and Politics: Confucianism, Taoism and Buddhism have left a collective and lasting impression on Chinese culture and tradition. Confucianism propagated “Ren” (Love) and “Li” (rituals), signifying respect for society and social hierarchy. Taoism advocated the controversial philosophy of inaction. Buddhism emphasized on the need to attain self- emancipation through good deeds.Image result for chinese culture images

    Ethnic Groups

    China, a large united multi-national state, is composed of 56 ethnic groups. Han Chinese account for 91.59% of the overall Chinese population, and the other 55 groups make up the remaining 8.41%, according to the Fifth National Population Census of 2000.
    These numerous ethnic groups share China's vast lands but at the same time many live in their individual communities. The relationships between the different ethnic groups have been formed over many years.

    Distinct Language

    While hundreds of Chinese dialects are spoken across China, a minority language is not simply a dialect. Rather, it is a language with distinct grammatical and phonological differences from Chinese. Language families include Sino-Tibetan, Altaic, Indo-European, Austro-Asiatic, and Austronesian. Twenty-one ethnic minority groups have unique writing systems.

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    Confucianism, Taoism and Buddhism are the three major religions in China, although it is true to say that Confucianism is a school of philosophy rather than a religion. Image result for chinese culture images
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